Are you good at saying no? Can you set boundaries?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Do you know what your feelings are ?
Mostly immediately
Only after withdrawing and connecting to myself
Mostly not
Do you find it easy to identify your needs? Can you communicate your needs well to other people?
Mostly immediately
Only after withdrawing and connecting to myself
Mostly not
Relationship to own body
I appreciate my body for being the key to spiritual mastery, emotional fulfillment and personal growth – I feel well with and in my body
I often feel betrayed by my body through pain, discomfort etc.
I would love my body if it actually did what I wanted it to do.
I am trying to learn what my body has to say and slowly getting there.
I know that I am very disconnected from my body, although I wished it were different.
I have one of the following moods: anxiety, panic, feeling overwhelmed, despair, feeling of isolation, resignation, boredom, brooding, aggressiveness/anger, depression, sadness, need to withdraw/be alone
Never without a concrete reason and they resolve within a short period of time, once I have dealt with the problem at hand.
If I keep busy, stuff like that doesn't get to me.
Moods run like on an internal screen for me. I get my stuff done and can even show the world a much different face. But internally, I am constantly evolving around my moods.
I often succumb to my moods. They render me useless.
Do you often seek guidance or reassurance because you feel insecure? I am not talking about consulting people to gain know-how...
Often
Rarely
Never
I double check everything in order to make sure I do things a 100% right
Often
Rarely
Never
I feel rejected or hurt
Easily
Rarely
Almost never
I feel "unseen" by others
Often
Rarely
Almost never
How do you react to authority?
I distrust it generally.
I have a passive-aggressive stance towards it.
I follow it more times than not.
I generally dismiss it.
I follow authority if it makes sense in the situation at hand, I never follow a person just for their position of authority.
Is it easy for you to make decisions?
Usually yes. I take a few days for very complex subjects. Other than that, I decide quickly.
Mostly not.
I am awful at making decisions.
Do you fear change?
No, I welcome it.
Mostly not.
Yes.
Do you often feel like a victim of circumstances?
No.
Only when I know that I have no control over my environment. I can't control what others do, after all.
Yes.
Do you sometimes fantasize to be taken care by others or saved by others?
No.
In rare moments of agony.
Often.
My childhood was
Happy
My parents loved me, but couldn't show it.
I experienced verbal abuse.
I experienced physical abuse.
I experienced sexual abuse.
I don't remember my childhood much.
I had emotional support, however, I know now that my parents were not able to give me what I needed, despite their best effort.
How is your relationship to your parents today (or before they passed away)?
While we had a rocky past, we now get along well because we evolved and grew out of our emotional baggage. Or I avoid my parents because they still display disrespectful behavior.
I keep in touchI keep in touch for their sake. To be honest, I don’t really care for them.
I don’t mind making an effort on their behalf every once in a while, even if they are still the same abusive people they have always been. They are old, after all, and I can’t expect them to change anymore.
Committed romantic relationships in my life
Are completely unimportant to me.
Have always been difficult because it is hard to maintain a good balance between giving and taking in romantic relationships.
Do not exist- I don't believe that the human being is created for committed relationships.
Have been difficult, but I won't give up. I know that certain stages of development require a committed long-term relationship.
What do you do when you feel lonely?
I cuddle up with my pet.
I ask my partner or friends for emotional care – but I am ok if they won't or can't give it at the moment.
I go into a meltdown.
I cover up my loneliness through work, drugs or meditation.
Do you struggle with financial abundance?
No, it has never been an issue for me or I have worked through my issues with money and I am doing quite well now.
My day job provides me with some financial comfort, but I can’t imagine making money doing something that I truly enjoy, something that doesn’t even feel like work.
I have ups and downs, still working on some consistency here.
I just can’t make any money.
Do you listen to your Instincts?
I always listen to my gut first, then I might go over to process what I have experienced from a mental perspective.
I often don't get my instinctual impulses.
I rarely get my instinctual impulses.
If I am attacked physically…
I will not defend myself or it is hard for me to defend myself.
I can’t live with the thought of killing someone, even if in self-defense.
I will try to talk my way out of it, but kill if I have to.
I will fight back immediately, because I can’t hold back my temper.
My definition of helping people is (I am not talking about children, helpless people or emergencies)
Offering information when asked, but always letting them take up responsibility for their own choices, even if they end up destroying themselves in the process. I walk away from people who do not want my help.
I know that people need to come to their own conclusions. But I can spend a fair amount of time trying to convince or explain why people should accept my help. I might even preach a bit every once in a while.
I sometimes catch myself trying to save others or do their work for them, although I cognitively know that I shouldn’t.
I jump in and help anyway I can, being of service is one of my purposes in life.
How do you react to failure?
I see my failure objectively: I examine where my mistakes are, re-evaluate the situation and try it again or let it go in case the costs are too high.
I go down a spiral of self-blame and shame.
I feel overwhelmed and push reality away.
Do you walk your talk?
Yes. As soon as I realize that I am cheating myself, I try to match my inside with reality and act on my will.
Not really, if I am honest.
It takes me a long time to put my will into action.